Monday, June 30, 2008

When things go sour...

Well, I'm apt to think of the old "make lemonade" adage, but I know it grates at some. Thinking back to a summer love (since I don't have one this year, yet?) from ages, EONS ago. Wow, I'm old.

We had issues he and I. Oh, we had issues. But we had the best actual breakup on my books.

I'm getting ahead of myself. He was the first 28 year old I dated. I was 23. I have since dated 28 year olds while I was 24 and 35. And I've noticed something, something that I noticed in Tai, not too long into our knowing each other. Something turns sour at 28 for men. Maybe it's the next round (or not) of testosterone, or the knowledge that in two more years they'll be 20. But when men turn 28, they get grumpy. And reminisce on "when I was 23."

Me? I was born on Nov. 28. My mom was born on Feb. 28. She was 28 when she had me. So I thought 28 was going to be this magical year. Instead, it was completely forgettable except for the fact that it was at the beginning stretch of my recovery from/into this bipolar disorder. You know what, I think I went to a hockey game. Yeah, my dad and brother picked me up from work, and we went to a Pens vs. Capitols hockey game. It was the least exciting game of my life, though my dad meant well. I was in a bad place, I guess. I was turning 28.

In SATC-TM, Carrie says to Louise, your twenties are for having fun, your thirties are for angst, and your forties are for paying for the drinks. Louise sparkles her smile and says, "In that case, I'll have another one."

I have a feeling I'm going to like the next decade better than this one. God give me the grace to enjoy each of the four years left (every minute of every day) until I get there.

It's Monday, after all. Anything can happen.


Caro said...

Hmmm, are you saying we should all date men under 28?

Can I take it that way anyway? LOL

Badger said...

I dated a 28 year old when I was 17. Yipes. (Not Senior Prom Guy -- you remember, the one who was MARRIED only I didn't know it? Because I was only 17?)

I guess what I'm saying is, there may be something to that theory of yours!

KitchenKiki said...

I had fun in my 20's. I didn't make the best decisions, but I lived through all of them.
My 30's started off fun, then got very intense, had some happiness, had some heartbreak. I think my 30's were a huge roller coaster, it will be interesting to see how they end up. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a new adventure to begin any minute. (Literally, any minute, HP is on his way across the country to give a big presentation to win a job. EVERYONE please, say a prayer, cross your fingers, wish on a star, sacrifice an inanimate object, what ever you believe in)

I think you are ready for a new adventure too?

Gingers Mom said...

30s are for angst? Hmmmm.... I've never thought about that. I felt more angst when I was younger. I never dated 28. Just married to one. By then he was resigned to the fact he was stuck with me. :)

Sarah Louise said...

Caro, you make me laugh. Thank you!

Badger--so glad I wasn't the only stupid 17 year old...mine wasn't 28 or married, just dating the entire senior class.

Kiki--I'm glad we've kept in touch through our decades. And yes, touching wood with my feet as I type this, thinking of HP.

Ginger's Mom--I shared your comment with Sally and she said, yeah, I was married to my DH when he was 22!

And to all--NEVER write "It's Monday, after all. Anything can happen." Anything did. I was supposed to be at WORK at 10 a.m. I got there by 2 p.m. GAH! I never work on Mondays--the universe is not in alignment!! Rolling with the punches...

elena jane said...

i like your 28 yo analysis for men...and that line in satc-tm is one of my favourites.

EP said...

Since I'm still in my 20s, I'll take your word for this. My boy hasn't reached 28, so hopefully, things will continue being good for us to and through that age. We shall see.

Your blog is so cute! Thanks for stopping by mine!

Sarah Louise said...

EP, good luck with that. I only speak from my limited experience. It's not like I polled 500 28 year olds.

Glad you like my blog. Thanks for stopping by!