Ah yes, Sarah Louise continues on her quest to discover.... this is a bit more snippet-y than the last post...
I don't know. I was up for about three hours last night/early morning, probably because I initially went to bed at nine. I visited my favorite blogs and left my comments (as I always do.) That Sarah Louise. She's a little crazy, you know. Crazy...like a fox.
Gail Sheehy was on the Today show yesterday. This was huge, as a friend recently told me that in her 1995 book, New Passages, Sheehy talks about how my generation continues in adolescence until mid to late thirties.
It reminds me of the Kristin Davis (Charlotte) quote: "I've been dating since I was 15, where is he? My hair hurts!" I mean, I've had crushes since I was in third grade!
But Gail's stance is that it's okay to be a late bloomer, and that my generation sort of is. What she said on the Today show yesterday was that the later you get married, the more likely it is to stick. Whew!
And this bit I loved. She talked about how women can get "off the ramp"(of career) to raise their children and then get "back on the ramp," because women are living longer. This is actually what my mother did. She was the wife of a diplomat, mother of three, and home when I got home from school. When my father started working long hours in the economic turnaround in Poland, my mother decided she couldn't stay home if he never came home. So she went back to teaching. Which she continues today. (Well, except that she took this past year off to have a chance to travel with my dad, who has been retired for five years.) My mother has been my role model in this whole thing.
It's part of the reason I became a Mary Kay consultant--as a young college graduate, it was appealing to me to have a career that would allow me to be home when my children came home. My mother was able to do that, and I want that for my children. Now, as a librarian, I see that my schedule can flex to fit family into the equation. Almost all the women I work with have children or grandchildren, and they are able to flex their work schedules around their family lives.
I always wanted to grow up to be my mom--but I'm learning that I can't. I have my own path to walk. I am grateful for the people that allow me to be me, crazy...like a fox.
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